Stop Slut-shaming the Porn Star

There are no winners in the comment section of any story by any online news source. Nothing is ever made better after we’ve been there. The comment section is where even the strongest, most logically constructed arguments are destroyed by nothing more than straw-man bravado, and the wildest conspiracy theories get pushed to the top based on how well they fit into the already misinformed worldview of everybody’s dipshit uncle. Sometimes, however, a story comes along that results in a comment section narrative that plays harmoniously in front of our country’s transparent curtain of rigid morality. This is the case with the story of our nation’s President and the Porn Star.

Here, the comment sections play out too predictably. Because she’s in the porn industry, it’s ok to dismiss her as a slut and a hooker and blame her for the fact that the man they voted into the Presidency of the United States was a willing participant with her in consensual sexual activity. Ignoring the hush money he paid her to sign a non-disclosure agreement, the potential violation of campaign finance laws, and his infidelity to his own family, his supporters can rest easy with their morals intact because she’s a slutty Porn Star.

Even many of those who didn’t vote for him want us to understand that while they disapprove of the Porn Star – lest they be cast in the same depraved light as her – they’re just pointing out the hypocrisy of the other side. In their criticism of the President, they prop up the very things about this story that his supporters ignore, while doing everything in their power to not seem sympathetic to the slutty Porn Star.

Potential legal issues aside, both sides of the political spectrum are scrambling to gain the moral high ground over the opposition at the expense of a easy target for their shared sexual repression– a woman who had the audacity to make a legal and successful career exploiting the hypocrisy of our puritanical notions about sex. Those notions are ours and not hers, and they’re outdated and ineffective, so stop shaming her for not being bound by them.

It’s not the bias that’s the problem, it’s how it’s applied.

Politicians, in general, win their offices because of their ability to stoke and exploit political divisions. The best among them — even if their intentions in representing you are honest — must first manipulate you with shiny slogans, slander their opposition with baseless accusations, and create political divisiveness around even the most trivial issues to earn your vote. Your mostly emotional and misguided vote.

Law enforcement, in general, are specifically trained to remain objective despite their political opinions and personal biases. There may be some who let these biases creep in, but these are not the best among them. The best among them take an objective path to justice, even when the idea of justice may be subjective to the rest of us. These best among them are often members of our nation’s top law enforcement agency, the FBI.

So when a contingent of politicians accuse the FBI of being biased in their pursuit of justice, it’s important to remember that the politicians got elected by embracing political divisions, while members of the FBI are there partly because of their ability to set those divisions aside.

Our military must prevail against the whims of our president.

Admittedly – and perhaps regretfully – I don’t know much about the transgendered community. But I do know that our collective differences as a society make us stronger on the whole, and I’ll always believe in and vehemently support the equal rights and opportunities of all Americans regardless of sexual identity or preference, race, religion, and on and on as our differences become more nuanced and personally identifiable. A true desire to see this belief cherished and nurtured by all Americans, and preserved by our elected government, was one of the reasons I joined the military.

The military is by no means free of racism, homophobia, sexism, or any other sort of discrimination. All those things that exist in society also exist in the military, and in some cases, those intolerances can be even more pronounced. A service traditionally dominated by men at the peak of their testosterone production, who are trained to react quickly and violently to any opposition, and who often have few outlets by which to discharge their stresses, might cling more strongly to their prejudices and vociferate them more readily among their common sympathizers.

However, one of the differences between our military and the rest of America is that our service members are not granted the same freedom to openly discriminate as the very Americans they volunteered to die for. We free Americans can express our bigotry according to our whims, critics be damned. For our servicemen and women, their whims need to be reordered so that they lay far below their oath to defend the freedoms of these United States, the military unit, and the person standing next to them in battle. First and foremost they are Marines, soldiers or airmen. Their shared trust in one another is built through their mutual perseverance of the same training, the same battles, and the same chain of command. Once earned, this trust evolves into loyalty, and it surpasses any prejudice that preceded it. That loyalty is what drives our service members willingly into combat.

When I served, the desire to stand for a belief that all Americans deserved the same rights and opportunities didn’t seem threatened. But today, as our president casually tossed out his intention to prevent our transgendered citizens from serving – or even continuing to serve – that simple belief needs defending.

I only hope that our military members, who ultimately take their orders from this commander-in-chief – our president – will rely on the trust that they’ve built among each other, and that it surpasses not only their own prejudices, but also those of the reckless and divisive President of the United States who gives them their orders.


Maybe don’t shit your pants when you’re pointing a loaded gun.

Maybe if you shit your pants at the first sign of stress, you should reconsider choosing law enforcement as your career.

Maybe if you’re a law enforcement agency, you should quit hiring people who shit their pants at the first sign of stress. And perhaps instead of just circling the wagons when your officers kill someone, you should seek out and require better training for yourselves – and be accountable for your lack of it when it fails.

Maybe if you’re a local government, you should ensure that your law enforcement agencies have the funding and resources they need to hire and properly train officers to serve and protect the public without the influence of institutional biases and a “shoot first” mentality. This way, if an unqualified candidate manages to slip through the cracks and become an officer, their training might overcome their natural tendency to shit their pants at the first sign of stress.

And maybe if you’re a citizen who votes, you should elect local government officials who support reforming a justice system that almost always protects the undertrained officers who shit their pants at the first sign of stress before the actual lives of the innocent people who pay their salaries. The people who seek your vote should first and foremost answer to you, the voter, and not just the law enforcement agencies they pay with your tax dollars.